Reading all the self-help books in the world won’t make us happy because happiness is a state of being. This means that we can’t get happy; we either are happy or we are not. Happiness comes from a sense of satisfaction with who we are. If we are constantly expressing a negative mood or attitude it will be impossible to find happiness. We may think we are happy but we won’t feel happy.
Happiness comes from within one’s self and begins with attitude. Having an “attitude of gratitude” is a way to begin to be happy. Find some single thing each day for which you are thankful. It might be a warm shower or a good friend, a good meal or a sunny day. There are many things for which we can be thankful that we often take for granted.
People who have been successful according to the world’s standards often are not happy. Success as the world measures it depends upon the accumulation of things outside ourselves such as wealth and possessions. True happiness does not depend upon circumstances or possessions. But happiness does go hand-in-hand with success. True success is knowing that I am becoming the person I want to be – my ideal self. At the core of our being we are each desirous of becoming our real Self – which is a being of light. This is attained by being the best person we can be at every moment of every day. By setting a standard, or ideal, of the kind of person we want to become, we also become more aware of our accomplishments and failures. Failures show us where more effort is required, and difficult situations present opportunities to practice that effort. As with any skill, practice makes perfect. Happiness is an inside job!
Don’t you understand that, in whatever circumstance you find yourself, it is of your own creation? You are reaping whatever you have sown. Only you are responsible for the life you have, and you will continue to have, until you make the necessary changes – to your attitudes, your desires, your dislikes, your habits, your way of being. It is only through sowing the seeds of tolerance, respect, humility, patience, forgiveness, acceptance and LOVE that you can reap happiness, contentment, peace and joy. Expecting different results when trying to change things outside yourself without making any changes inside yourself just doesn’t work. It has to begin with a change of mind, of attitude, of heart. Learn to sit quietly without distractions, look within and listen to the small, still voice that is calling you to awaken. If you want things to change, the change has to come from within. It is up to you to choose, not only the kind of life you have now, but the quality of life that will be yours in the future. Change your mind and change your world.
The commandments are guidelines for “doing,” as actions of the body. The beatitudes are guidelines for “being,” as guidance for spirit, the source of actions. These “be-attitudes,” or attitudes of being, define the manner in which the neutral Spirit within may be guided by will to choose the positive rather than the negative vibratory conditions of expression. Jesus taught the beatitudes saying, “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Blessed are the gentle, for they shall inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they shall be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God. Blessed are those who have been persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven. Blessed are you when people reproach you, persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven.”
Matthew 5: 3-12
The poor in spirit are those who are humble instead of arrogant. Those who mourn are those who have compassion for others. Those who are gentle are not violent. Those who hunger for righteousness desire equality and fairness for all. Those who are merciful are forgiving and not vindictive. Those who are pure in heart are free of all negative desires. Those who are peacemakers are cooperative and not divisive. These are inner qualities that bless, not only those who possess them, but those who receive the actions resulting from these attitudes of being.