Reading all the self-help books in the world won’t make us happy because happiness is a state of being. This means that we can’t get happy; we either are happy or we are not. Happiness comes from a sense of satisfaction with who we are. If we are constantly expressing a negative mood or attitude it will be impossible to find happiness. We may think we are happy but we won’t feel happy.
Happiness comes from within one’s self and begins with attitude. Having an “attitude of gratitude” is a way to begin to be happy. Find some single thing each day for which you are thankful. It might be a warm shower or a good friend, a good meal or a sunny day. There are many things for which we can be thankful that we often take for granted.
People who have been successful according to the world’s standards often are not happy. Success as the world measures it depends upon the accumulation of things outside ourselves such as wealth and possessions. True happiness does not depend upon circumstances or possessions. But happiness does go hand-in-hand with success. True success is knowing that I am becoming the person I want to be – my ideal self. At the core of our being we are each desirous of becoming our real Self – which is a being of light. This is attained by being the best person we can be at every moment of every day. By setting a standard, or ideal, of the kind of person we want to become, we also become more aware of our accomplishments and failures. Failures show us where more effort is required, and difficult situations present opportunities to practice that effort. As with any skill, practice makes perfect. Happiness is an inside job!