What Is Judgment?

Don’t judge, so that you won’t be judged. For with whatever judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with whatever measure you measure, it will be measured to you.” (Matthew 7:1-2)

Judgment is an evaluation with the intention that harm be dispensed as punishment for some transgression, either real or imagined. Any such emotional intention establishes an attraction for similar harmful energy to be dealt to those who judge. It sets a karmic reaction in motion for getting back the same kind of energy that was given out. That is the meaning of the statement above. Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
Where judgment implies punishment, discernment recognizes differences, such as good vs bad, or acceptable vs not acceptable, without emotional engagement. To discern whether or not a snake is poisonous does not judge the snake. To decide whether a person’s words or actions are abusive is not a judgment of that person. Discernment is using the ability to distinguish between that which may be beneficial as opposed to that which may be harmful.

For judgment is without mercy to him who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment. (James 2:13)

Judgment has no mercy. Discernment has no judgment and is not concerned with punishment or retribution because it is not interested in an outcome.

Know the God of your father, and serve him with a perfect heart and with a willing mind; for God searches all hearts, and understands all the imaginations of the thoughts. (1 Chronicles 28: 9)

Pain Release

OpenDoor

While physical pain is more difficult to overcome than emotional pain, physical pain is often the result of blocked emotional energy that needs to be released. Several attempts may be required to become entirely free of the distressing emotion, but with each use of this practice, the emotional distress will eventually heal, and whatever triggered it will no longer have an effect.

A method for releasing emotional or physical pain has been given to us by many spiritual teachers, a few of the lessons have been provided below:

This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. ~ RUMI

Instead of (avoiding our moods and emotions) invite them to come in and have a cup of tea. Yes, it would perhaps be better to offer it a Scotch-and-soda … because the idea is to encourage it, to invite it to be itself with a vengeance … for this is accepting its independence of the ego, that is, allowing it to behave as it wills … instead of denying it, we affirm it … to experience it to the full … for even the blackest mood has a profound meaning for us and is a blessing in disguise. … The point is not to accept it in order that you might pass on to a higher state, but to accept it because acceptance itself is that higher state.”
~ from The Meaning of Happiness by Allan W. Watts

By turning your attention to any emotional or physical pain, observing it and feeling its energy, the identification of the pain as being you is broken. Sustained conscious attention severs the link between the pain and your feelings, providing you with a process of transmutation.
~ from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Your unique personal vibrational frequency determines the quality of your life. By accepting the energy of your vibrational resonance and taking charge of it you can change your thoughts and emotions. A transformational shift will occur providing limitless possibilities. To liberate the feelings and beliefs that no longer serve you, fully embrace them allowing them to be released. This will bring freedom to the pure vibrational energy within. ~ from Panache Desai

Despair, pain and grief are held to be unpleasant and thoroughly undesirable. Dearest friend, take the lighted candle of your own faith, and enter completely into your despair. Be there. Look around. Let your self-remembering light that cavern, demanding nothing, expecting nothing. Rather than push away your despair, just say yes to it. If you say yes to your pain, then that pain is filled with Love. This is not something to think or merely perform. It is something to be. Say ‘yes’ in that despair-filled moment when you are able, and with your next breath say ‘yes’ again. And, if you are willing to allow the structure of despair to alter, you will observe it beginning to change. … Whatever your predicament may be, ‘yes’ will not solve it. It will dissolve it. ‘Yes’ is not obedience or acquiescence. It is an embrace.”
~ from Emmanuel’s Book III, What Is an Angel Doing Here? by Rodegast and Stanton

The practice is a three-step process of: 1) acknowledging what is going on internally during a distressing physical or emotional situation, 2) welcoming it, and 3) letting it go. … Close your eyes and feel the emotional and/or physical pain. Stay with the sensation for a minute or two, exploring how it feels in your body. After a minute or two, consciously move in the opposite direction, still working directly on the sensation. Relax, take a deep breath, and come down into your being. Soften inwardly. Open to the sensation of your own presence, and try to stay with that presence no matter what inner racket is going on. Keep returning consciously to that sensation of inner openness until you can feel calmness beginning to return. If you are patient and firm, it eventually will. The aliveness of your “I AM” presence, sensed directly in this way, will eventually heal any mental or emotional turmoil that temporarily preempts it.
~ from The Wisdom Jesus, Transforming Heart and Mind – A New Perspective on Christ and His Message by Cynthia Bourgeault as provided in The Welcoming Prayer

Eckhart Tolle explains the process of acceptance that aids in the elimination of “suffering” due to stressful emotions.

Also see the Notice and Ease Tool by HeartMath

Symptoms of a Spiritual Awakening (also called Spiritual Emergence)

AuraSince 2012 many people have been experiencing difficult health symptoms. Depression is one that appears to be common. For those who practice some form of spiritual exercise, the symptoms could be the result of energy called kundalini. However, this is true even for those who do not practice, or even think about spirituality. In her book, Journey Through Transformation; A guide to mystical awakening, kundalini, emotional clearing and spiritual emergence, Kaia Nightingale explains that, of the 110 participants in her survey who felt they had a spiritual experience, 43% of them were not engaged in any spiritual practice, and 15% had no belief at all in spirit prior to their experience. The causes that triggered the experience were varied from such things as meditation, stress, and illness. The type of experience also varied among the participants and included everything from revelations to UFO sightings, all of which are described in the book.

Any spiritual experience can be either joyful or frightening, especially when it is not understood. The energy within each person opens doors to parts of the psyche that have been hidden from consciousness, and when they are suddenly released, disturbing consequences follow. If there is some deep-seated emotional content such as fear, anger, grief, or anxiety, it may be raised to a conscious level resulting in stressful emotional turmoil. Even those who have an understanding of the way in which these openings occur can be unprepared for the actual experience. While the experience itself will generally be of short duration, trying to make sense of it may keep the mind engaged in fear and stress.

Some of the symptoms of a spiritual awakening described in this book include: sensitivity to crowds, colors, foods, and noises; pain, eyestrain, headaches; involuntary movements; skin sensations; heat in various places in the body or throughout the body; time distortions. Remedies are provided for internal clearing and grounding.

Unfortunately, as pointed out by Kaia Nightingale from her own experience, many gurus have no knowledge of how to deal with difficult spiritual awakenings. The medical profession is of little, if any, help since there is no physical cause for the symptoms and people are often referred to a therapist or psychologist.

This is an excellent book but it is not intended to replace the need for prudent care with the help of a physician. Symptoms always should be ruled out as having a physical cause before suspecting them to be spiritually related.

Many additional resources for information about the difficulties of a spiritual awakening are also provided in this book. It can be purchased online at amazon in print or electronic format.

A few online sites are included here for immediate reference:

Spiritual Emergence Service – http://spiritualemergence.net/

Spiritual Emergency Resource Center – http://www.spiritualcompetency.com/se/resources/senciis.html

Advanced Yoga Practiceshttp://www.aypsite.org/ayurveda.html

Kundalini Awakening – http://www.spiritualcompetency.com/blackboard/lessons/types/kundalinitype.htm

Spiritual Competency Resource Center – http://www.spiritualcompetency.com/blackboard/lessons/lesson5.html

FACEBOOK PAGES:
Spiritual Emergence Counseling
Spiritual Emergence Service Society

 

Did You Know?

Fragment of a Hellenistic relief ~ from the Walters Art Museum.

Fragment of a Hellenistic relief (1st century BC – 1st century AD) depicting the Twelve Olympian gods; from left to right, Hestia, Hermes, Aphrodite, Ares, Demeter, Hephaestus, Hera, Poseidon, Athena, Zeus, Artemis, Apollo ~ from the Walters Art Museum.

Many gods were worshiped in ancient times because it was believed that the highest god was unknowable and unreachable. This god was beyond comprehension, beyond the minds of humans, unable to be reached by consciousness. Therefore many lower gods were sought to intercede between humans and this ultimate god. Each lower god had a particular skill or purpose such as a god for rain, crops, fertility, good fortune etc. This has carried over into our times with the idea that saints can intercede for us. For example, St. Francis of Assisi is the patron saint of animals, and St. Patrick is the patron saint of Ireland.

For the early Christians, “the Father” God was that highest, unknowable and unreachable God. Therefore there was much meaning for them in the message of John 14:6 where Jesus is quoted as saying that, “I am the *way*, the truth, and the *life*. No one comes to the Father, except through me.” For them it meant that there was now a direct connection between them and the highest God.

When we think of consciousness as *life* force and the medium through which we gain perception of our world, we can also understand that our world view has continued to expand over time because consciousness is expanding. When our view of God the Father is seen as the unconscious part of ourselves (the Kingdom of God within us), where infinite possibility exists but is not yet created, then we can get an idea of the *Way* in which Jesus, through a perfectly harmonized human consciousness of Love, brought consciousness into the unconscious Source that was previously inaccessible. In this way, Jesus made God accessible to humans so that each of us, through a consciousness of perfect Love, could become one with the infinite Father God. This is the meaning of enlightenment, realization, and the Biblical passage:

Philip said to him, “Lord, show us the Father, and that will be enough for us.” Jesus said to him, “Have I been with you such a long time, and do you not know me, Philip? He who has seen me has seen the Father. How do you say, ‘Show us the Father?’ Don’t you believe that I am in the Father, and the Father in me? The words that I tell you, I speak not from myself; but the Father who lives in me does his works. Believe me that I am in the Father, and the Father in me; or else believe me for the very works’ sake. Most certainly I tell you, he who believes in me, the works that I do, he will do also; and he will do greater works than these, because I am going to my Father.” (John 14:8-12)

What Is Your Heart’s Desire?

Heart with glowDesire is a part of human nature because it is a part of the soul. Desire originates from our Source (God) along with the gift of will. Cayce described desire as the power that drives us, and will as the force that directs that power. It is from the desires of the heart (the urges and intentions) that thoughts are able to bring about physical activities to shape those desires. The power within the Source that began creation was a desire or urge within It to know Itself. It was this same desire that created duality with its positive and negative poles but, when desire is joined with will that is directed toward God, it becomes a positive influence within the life of the soul.

Although desire is the basis of evolution, life and truth, it also paves the way to hell. When only the pleasures of the physical are desired and the spirit is neglected, an imbalance is produced within the soul. Desiring things to please self in the physical may bring consequences that are not very pleasing when what has been sown eventually is experienced. Those who seek only physical gratification will find that this is hell itself.

Desire and will are two forces that are constantly playing out throughout our lifetimes. Unified they are creative in their aspects and through them we can create peace or destruction. Through desire and will we direct the spirit within to be either one with or separate from our Creator. The challenge is to direct both desire and will to the neutral center, the still point within us, the place of the “Nothing”(footnote 1) where there is only love.

Cayce was asked whether the desires of the flesh body are carried over after death and he replied that any desires that have become a portion of the subconscious mind will pass on with the soul after death. Appetites such as gluttonousness or an addiction will be part of the soul-body’s normal consciousness after it leaves a physical body since the physical body’s subconscious mind becomes the conscious mind of the soul. The inability to quench bodily desires without the benefit of a physical body will be the self-made hell that an individual will have to endure.

The vibrations built into the soul equip the soul for a particular vibratory environment after death, and that vibratory environment will be one to which the soul will be attracted because like attracts like. Whatever is built into the soul during a lifetime is that which is found in death. Our lessons continue, whether in a physical body on earth, or in another dimension, each in its own sphere or realm according to that in which the vibrations were created. Therefore, each soul’s experience after leaving the body is as individual as the person was during his or her lifetime because it is shaped by the individual themselves.(footnote 2) In a new physical incarnation there will be a reflection of the effects of past actions and also opportunities to correct past errors. (This has been taken from my book, Spirit and Truth, Finding Clarification of Christian Beliefs through the Words of Scientists, Scriptures, Sages and Seers)

1.See the blog “Is There A God?
2.This has been shown to be true in a Youtube video presenting research of near-death experiences.

Expectations

Desert

If our expectations are too rigid, we may miss opportunities that come into our lives. It is better to have no expectation of the blessings that we might receive, but be open to all possibilities.

There is a story about a man who considered himself a true believer, of having a great faith. He relied on God to provide all his needs. One day a terrible storm was forecast and people were warned to go to higher ground because of the danger of being flooded. However, the man ignored the warning because he knew that God would provide for his needs. A car came by his house with neighbors who offered to take him with them to a safe place, but the man refused because God would provide all his needs. The rain came and began to flood the area. A boat with authorities came by and told the man he should evacuate, but the man stood his ground because God would provide. As the water got deeper, the man went up to the roof. A helicopter flew over and, seeing him on the roof, the people inside told him to grab the lifeline and they would pull him up, but the man refused because God would provide. Finally the water swept over the house and the man drowned. When he got to heaven he met God and indignantly asked, “I had great faith that you would provide what I needed and you let me drown. How could you do that?” God answered, “I sent you a car, a boat, and a helicopter, but you refused them all.”

Sometimes the blessings we receive are either smaller or greater than what we could have imagined, and sometimes they are disguised as difficulties that will lead us to something better.

There is another story of a man who bought a beautiful stallion at a very good price. His neighbors came and congratulated him on his good fortune. He replied, “Perhaps it’s good, perhaps it’s bad.” One day the stallion managed to escape the corral and ran off. The neighbors all voiced their regrets at this difficult loss. But again he remarked, “Perhaps it’s good, perhaps it’s bad.” A few days later the stallion came back with three lovely mares and, of course, the neighbors all exclaimed what good luck that was. But the man only replied, “Perhaps it’s good, perhaps it’s bad.” As his son was riding one of the mares, she bolted causing the young man to fall and break his leg. At which the neighbors again voiced their dismay at the turn of events. But the man only answered, “Perhaps it’s good, perhaps it’s bad.” Because there was much trouble in the area, the king ordered all young men to join in a great war, but the man’s son couldn’t go because he had a broken leg. When the neighbor’s came to congratulate him on his good fortune they heard the same reply – – and so it goes on.

Whether a situation is good or bad depends upon our outlook, the way we perceive it. The situation, in itself, is neither good nor bad, it just “is.” Only our attitude determines its rightness or wrongness. Even those who commit a crime believe it to be a good thing for them, though it may appear to be bad to everyone else. A rain storm may be beneficial to a farmer who needs water for his crops, but detrimental to an outdoor celebration.

There is a saying, “Expect nothing and never be disappointed.” Frustration is a result of expectations not met, and anger is the result of an overload of frustration that is acted out as violence. These are conflicting energies that exist between the ego’s longing for worldly things and the soul’s longing for peace within. When ego and soul are in agreement, there is no agitation, no frustration, no anger – there is only peace within.

To expect nothing is to be accepting of all circumstances, all situations – with the knowledge that we have the ability to refuse from people that which does not serve our greater good, or to accept from them that which does. Refusing what does not serve us is illustrated by the story of the Buddha in “About Bullying,” another blog available here.

Self Repair

SelfRepair

When all is well it is impossible to know that something needs fixing – it isn’t until the dishwasher leaks, or the lamp won’t turn on, that we know some repair is required. It’s the same way with the energy we hold inside ourselves. There is no way to know it is out of balance until we encounter a situation that informs us of a need to change. This comes as stress, anxiety, anger, frustration, disappointment and a host of other negative emotions. Unless these emotions are recognized for what they are, and released, they will continue to be a source of upset. The repair that is needed is a change in the way the problems are thought about. When we consider the problem as a wake-up call to make an internal change rather than as a source of annoyance, we can go about the work of transforming a stumbling block into a stepping stone. This is done by consciously feeling the negative energy, recognizing it as our own creation, and lovingly accepting it as a need within. That need is always one of love – it is a part of our selves that isn’t loved and is in deep need of it. So we give it love. When we love those parts of ourselves that aren’t very lovable, the negative energy is neutralized with positive energy, causing it to lessen. Once we have recognized the anger, hurt, frustration, etc. that is part of our selves and have given it love, we can lovingly release it with a big sigh of relief. Depending upon the strength of the negative energy it may take several attempts to completely dissolve it. With each successive encounter we have that brings up the same old emotions, the strength of the energy should not be as powerful and be more easily released. This is also learning to love self by recognizing our self worth – the value inherent within ourselves. It is not an egotistical love or a feeling of superiority, it is a humble recognition of who we are as spirits of light, as children of God.

Also see: Pain Release

The Devil, You Say

Devil
The phrase, “The devil made me do it” was popularized by Flip Wilson, a comedian of the 70’s. It removes the responsibility for any action from the self and attributes it to the devil. This is the thinking of many who believe that the devil is responsible for any kind of evil thought or act.

The idea of a devil was necessary to express a concept that requires an intuitive insight, or an understanding of the human psyche. This is true of many spiritual concepts that are otherwise unexplainable in words. The word “God,” for example, has many different connotations, and the concept is expressed through a variety of words that appear to distinguish different personalities while they are actually attempting to bring to mind a single idea that is entirely foreign to mind.

The personification of the part of the human psyche that is ego-centered is that which is called the devil. Ego is that part of our selves which is in direct opposition to that which is personified as God. Ego considers itself to be its own god of the earth and, as such, it desires to rule over each of us, giving us the notion that we are perfect and good regardless of our thoughts, words or actions. This is in contrast to the inner promptings of conscience, the still, small voice within. The ability to choose what is right is drowned out by the constant rumbling of thoughts, attitudes and emotions that cloud the mind and hide that quiet inner feeling. This is enhanced even more so in this age of technology where iPods keep us continuously tuned in to the outer world, while they drown out the inner.

We each confront our own devils when we are given the choice to give of ourselves instead of taking for our own selfish gains. It is selfishness, the aim of ego to enhance its own growth, which directs us away from the openness and unity of Love. It separates and divides making us believe that we are not connected to the Whole. It is interested only in the self and its gains, often at the expense of others. This is the root of all evil in the world and is that which is called the “devil.”

For more information about the devil and evil, read my book, SPIRIT AND TRUTH.

See also: Duality and The Problem of Evil

About Bullying

This is a subject that has been getting a lot of press lately, and for good reasons. It is a subject that needs to be understood in order to be properly addressed. There are several dynamics at work, so to begin let me say that, since everything in creation is composed of energy, it is basically the negative energy of bullying that has to be neutralized with positive energy. Let me illustrate with my own first experience of the way this works.

A neighbor’s child was having difficulty relating to his peers so his mother, angered by her son’s treatment, arrived at my friend’s home with a list of complaints. When she finished shouting, I calmly said to her, “You’re right,” and then continued to agree with some of her arguments. I was surprised, back then, that this immediately had a calming effect on the irate parent and we were able to discuss solutions to the problem. What I didn’t understand at that time was that, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”(Proverbs 15:1) Since then I have found many instances when this is true.

So how does this relate to bullying? First of all consider the bully who is the source of the negative energy. This may come from anger, jealousy, intolerance, egotism, or possibly wanting to be liked by peers. These all stem from an inner need, whatever it happens to be, and is negative energy that will be acted out in a negative way to satisfy that need. It is the manifestation of a soul whose energy is not in harmonious balance and requires change. But that change can only come from inside that person. Nothing outside that person can make that change. That person has to recognize the need to change and implement it on their own. They can be encouraged to do good, shown good example, taught to use different manners of behavior, or even punished, but unless they are willing to change themselves, change will not be forthcoming.

So what are we left with? The only thing we can change is ourselves. I’ll say it again – the only thing we can change is ourselves. If we are not willing to do that, we’re back at square one and the negative energy has won. It will grow into more hurt feelings, more anger, more conflict, and more acting out – possibly even leading to destructive actions because negative energy feeds on more negative energy and grows stronger.

What is the answer? The answer is always LOVE – – but it is a little complicated.

I’ll relate a story about the Buddha which has appeared in different forms but essentially has the points that I want to make. The story goes something like this: there was a highly educated man who saw the Buddha and began to hurl insults at him. The Buddha sat calmly and didn’t reply. When the man asked how he could stay so calm without answering his taunts the Buddha asked him a question – “If food is presented to a person and that person refuses the food, to whom does the food belong?” The obvious answer given by the educated man was that the food belonged to the giver. He then understood that the insults he had hurled at the Buddha belonged only to himself because they had not been accepted by the Buddha.

This story illustrates the following dynamics:
First – we can only give what we have. The educated man had only animosity and pride to give. The Buddha had understanding , compassion, tolerance, and love to give.
Second – we have the ability to make choices, not only about what we give but also about what we receive. The Buddha had no need for the negative energy so he chose not to receive it. In this way the negative energy was not supported and it could no longer continue.
Third – the Buddha understood that the educated man felt diminished in the presence of the Buddha and required a way to feel more powerful, but the Buddha possessed self-love and had no karmic need for the “food” that was being offered.

How do we make this lesson useful for ourselves?

Let’s first consider the person being bullied. It has been said that if we could see the actions that brought on such circumstances, we would not be so upset by them. This is because karma is playing out in order to balance an unbalanced energy. Whatever has been sown – regardless of the time frame – will be reaped. The only way karma can be balanced is through grace – the use of energetically positive virtues such as tolerance, patience, humility, love etc. Those who are bullied, but do not have the awareness of a Buddha, probably have encountered a situation in which they have been given the opportunity to learn a needed lesson. They can choose an action which will satisfy that karma and bring grace, or one that will create another encounter of the same sort. By expressing additional negative energy toward the bully, thereby “feeding” the negative energy, the negative energy will become stronger and escalate the tension leading to additional confrontations. But by understanding that the bully is in need of compassion, tolerance and love, the person who is being bullied can release their karma by offering a hand of friendship, or by responding in a way to let the bully know his remarks have no effect, or by calmly walking away.

It is necessary to understand that negative energy feeds on more negative energy and cannot survive without it. To stop a bully’s taunts it is wise not to react in an unconscious manner by absorbing the energy into self. It is better to consciously respond, rather than to unconsciously react with more negative words and/or actions. A kind response shows that the negative energy is not doing its job because it has not been accepted.

If the bully gets physical it requires some action, but only after a conscious response is given such as, “I understand you want to fight but I think it would be a lot nicer to be friends.” If this doesn’t work it may require intervention by proper authorities such as teachers, parents or police. As Theodore Roosevelt said, “Speak softly and carry a big stick,” the stick being the strength within, in the form of self-worth, or the strength without, in the form of a higher authority.

Most importantly, it is necessary to understand that we are all beings of light, children of God, regardless of outer appearances or actions. When we are able to connect fully with that idea it is easier to love ourselves and to love others in the same way. Self-love is a feeling of self-worth and has nothing to do with ego or self-aggrandizement. It is recognizing, in all humility and love, that we are temples of God who is our innate spiritual being. Once this is achieved it becomes a power within us – the rod and staff that supports us, the strength that protects us.

These ideas may not come easily in the beginning, but the effort to use love instead of fear is well worth the time and trouble. Peace of mind is possible only when it is found inside one’s heart and then given to all who need it. These are lessons from the Masters down through the ages – love your neighbor – do unto others as you would have them do unto you – do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Happiness Is an Inside Job

Reading all the self-help books in the world won’t make us happy because happiness is a state of being. This means that we can’t get happy; we either are happy or we are not. Happiness comes from a sense of satisfaction with who we are. If we are constantly expressing a negative mood or attitude it will be impossible to find happiness. We may think we are happy but we won’t feel happy.

Happiness comes from within one’s self and begins with attitude. Having an “attitude of gratitude” is a way to begin to be happy. Find some single thing each day for which you are thankful. It might be a warm shower or a good friend, a good meal or a sunny day. There are many things for which we can be thankful that we often take for granted.

People who have been successful according to the world’s standards often are not happy. Success as the world measures it depends upon the accumulation of things outside ourselves such as wealth and possessions. True happiness does not depend upon circumstances or possessions. But happiness does go hand-in-hand with success. True success is knowing that I am becoming the person I want to be – my ideal self. At the core of our being we are each desirous of becoming our real Self – which is a being of light. This is attained by being the best person we can be at every moment of every day. By setting a standard, or ideal, of the kind of person we want to become, we also become more aware of our accomplishments and failures. Failures show us where more effort is required, and difficult situations present opportunities to practice that effort. As with any skill, practice makes perfect. Happiness is an inside job!